What It Really Means To Be A Good Man

Sometimes it’s hard to be a good man. Some people think that kindness makes them look stupid or weak. In reality, this is not the case at all.

You need a lot of patience, strength and self-control to be a good person all the time. It’s a real challenge, but doesn’t it make you feel good?

It is easier to be happy – and healthy – if you try to find the good in people.

If you’re a good person, it doesn’t mean you’re “stupid.”

Many people fear that if they are too good, they will be “taken for fools.” Thus, various misunderstandings arise and you sometimes end up behaving like people who hurt you.

It is important to always make well-thought-out decisions. Here are some tips to keep people from taking advantage of your kindness:

No one has the right to hurt you or anyone else.

When a person abuses you, your well-being is in danger. Reporting this abuse does not mean that you are a bad person. On the contrary, you are a good enough and intelligent person to take care of yourself and your relationships.

The best decision is to report the abuse and ask for help.

Don’t let toxic people manipulate you

It is not good to endure certain unpleasant situations just to make other people happy. Don’t let anyone manipulate you!

Don’t be a martyr

You may think that being a good person means suffering and enduring various hardships. In reality, this is not the case at all.

You don’t have to deal with other people’s problems. You just have to be patient and kind when you interact with them.

Don’t let others hurt you just because you’re good to them. You deserve respect, love and attention, just like every human being. 

Be kind to yourself

Being a good person is not just an outward-looking attitude. You have to think about yourself and be good to yourself. 

You probably already know that in order to love another person, you must first love yourself. That’s what we mean. If you don’t want other people to take advantage of you and take you for a fool, you have to be kind to yourself.

That means you have to value and respect yourself above all else. It means you have to save yourself before you can help others. It is not a selfish attitude, but simply what you deserve.

Maybe the idea that thinking about yourself is a negative thing is ingrained in your mind. This conception is wrong. In time, you will get tired of being humiliated, lied to, manipulated or “loved” only when it suits the other person.

Eventually, you will end up becoming a victim or the opposite of a good man. We all get tired at some point so that people around us can take advantage of us. 

Being a good man is not what you thought

Many times, we do not understand how the difference between good and evil should be. For example, mistakes are not a negative thing, but tools that contribute to personal development.

Below we present some aspects that illustrate what it means, in fact, to be a good person.

When needed, leave

Maybe you think it’s not right to abandon a man who hurts you. Give up this thinking. If you do not feel good in a relationship, if a certain person manipulates you or causes you unhappiness, you should leave her.

You have the right to say what you think

If you tell others only what they want to hear, you are not expressing what you really think. Try not to lie to yourself or them. Always be honest, even if the person you are talking to is not happy with what they hear or feel hurt.

You can say “no” whenever you want

Just because you say “no,” doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. After all, you have your own obligations and problems. You don’t have to sacrifice your time for other people if you can’t or don’t want to.

You don’t have to be perfect

Good people are not right in all situations either. And they make mistakes, like any of us. Learn something from these wrong steps, without denying or rejecting them. This way, you will become an even better person!

Remember that being good does not mean being a victim or letting those around you take advantage of you. Appreciate yourself, love yourself and learn from your own mistakes every day. 

Good people are not perfect, but they are neither stupid nor naive.