I’m Breaking Up With You Because I Love Myself

Before saying a sincere and passionate “I love you”, you must first give yourself a few moments each day to say to yourself: “I love myself and I deserve to be happy.”

It is not easy to separate these two intimate spheres of life. Both your needs and those of your partner are just as complex. But it is essential to be primarily concerned with your own identity and self-esteem.

If at some point you had to break up with a person because you realized that maintaining that relationship causes you more harm than good, then you know how hard this decision is.

But there is one thing we all need to be aware of, especially teenagers who are having their first love affair. True love does not hurt.

Love must be beautiful, soothing, and wise, so that “I love you” and “I love you” are not mutually exclusive.

Let’s reflect a little on this topic.

I love myself enough to love you with all my heart

People who do not love each other find it difficult to establish sincere and healthy relationships. Of course, none of us are experts in the love, relationships, and complicity that underlie true happiness.

Love is built and strengthened every day, but only if both partners are equally eager and involved and not just looking to meet their own needs.

People who do not love themselves

• People who do not love themselves are always looking for other people to meet their emotional needs.
• In a couple relationship, it is impossible to focus on your own identity and self-esteem if the person next to you does not love himself. You end up consuming all your energy by taking care of it, striving to make it happy.
• Sometimes, when you fall in love with a man who does not love himself, you think that you can “save” him. You imagine that you are the solution to all his problems and the light from the darkness of his life.
• But in the end, this type of relationship exhausts you emotionally, so you end up forgetting about yourself.

I love myself enough to love you as you deserve

A mature relationship is a conscious relationship. Neither partner is blackmailing the other. There are no formulas like “mine and yours” and even less “because that’s what I said.”

In a mature relationship you can say “I love myself”, because you know that this is the only way you feel completely and you are not afraid to be alone. Only if you know how to build your own happiness are you able to give the best of yourself to your loved one.

• If I love myself, I will not force you to drive away my fears. I don’t make you fill my voids, be my savior or give me “air” when I can no longer breathe.

I forgive you, but I leave you

As we have already mentioned, most of us have had to end a relationship at some point. The reason may be infidelity, mental fatigue, or awareness that we are not loved as we should be.

• Whatever the reason for ending a relationship, you need to be able to forgive. As difficult as it may be, this is the only way to end this chapter of your life.
• Self-love and personal dignity are the only essential nutrients for the soul. These are the two elements that help you behave with maturity in the most difficult situations.
• If you do not have self-esteem, it is possible to maintain a toxic relationship just for fear of being alone or leaving your loved one. Even if it makes you unhappy, you prefer to have her by your side, because the thought of living without her scares you more.

It is not at all advisable to end up in this situation. The love you have for yourself gives you the strength to give up a relationship without a future, which offers you no satisfaction and which brings you more tears than joy.

Remember: you are not selfish if you say to yourself every day “I love myself and I deserve to be happy.”